18 Jul 2013 1 Comment
This is for all the single ladies or men. My question for you today is – Are you happy being single? If the answer to this question is no, then ask yourself why the heck not. If you are not happy being by yourself, then there is no way you’re going to be happy in a relationship with someone else. Yes, the relationship may start off good, most new relationships do, but eventually the problems will arise. And typically these are problems that you, as an individual have not resolved and released.
The problems could be various things such as baggage from previous relationships, unrealistic expectations, unhappy with you, pain/hurt from childhood experience … etc. Whatever it is, until you face it and release it, which includes forgiveness, you will never be happy. Believe me when I say that no other person can make you happy. Happiness is something that each individual must already possess within themselves.
As a single woman, who does want to be a wife one day, I had to take a long hard look at myself and my life, and start possessing the qualities that I want in a mate, and being content with my single status. I am now taking my single time to get myself in order, so that I can be the helpmate that God designed me to be, for my husband.
To me, happy being single, is all about living life to the fullest and being adventurous, while it is just you. Don’t be afraid to go or do something by yourself, if your friends or family is not available, or take the time to learn something new, broaden your horizon. It’s the time to focus on you, and to get you in order, every realm of your life (spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, intellectual, financial, and relational). If you take advantage of your single time, and work on yourself, then you can be ready for that special someone, when they enter your life, or the flip side is you want fall for the first person, because you know what you want and you are not seeking happiness from someone else.
I know that we all want to be loved by someone, but let’s start with loving and being happy with ourselves. Therefore, I challenge you to start taking advantage of your single time, and work on being the best person you can be, and create in yourself the qualities that you want, in your mate.
Here’s to being happy with ourselves and content with our single status, for now. I truly believe that God has someone for everyone.
“Being the Best Me”